Raising Your Child with Love for Allah

I often find myself reflecting on the kind of mother I hope to be one day. More than a clean home, a delicious, nurturing meal, good grades, or future success, what I want for my children is that they grow up with love for their Creator. I want love for Allah ﷻ to be in their hearts. Because if that genuine love is there, all the mandatory tasks such as salah, iman, akhlaq, and good character will naturally come to them.

Over the years, I’ve come to realize that strong iman isn’t something you hand over like candy, not through long lectures, nor through harsh discipline, but through teaching them and showing them over time. Children notice it by seeing acts of love for Allah ﷻ in their surroundings. And they feel it in their daily life by seeing us have genuine love for Allah ﷻ. That is why the love for Allah ﷻ must, in the first place, come from us. That is why I want to create a home where the atmosphere itself speaks of Allah ﷻ and His Messenger ﷺ. By talking positively about Him, by giving a merciful perspective of Him, and openly praising Him and thanking Him.

For my future kids, I want salah to feel like a gift, not a rule. I imagine praying at home, letting them join me and their father in their way, perhaps with a small prayer mat beside me.I want them to see prayer as a moment of peace, a moment with their Creator, a moment of closeness to Allah ﷻ, not something heavy or forced.

The small things matter too. And if you collect all these small acts of worship, or as I love to call them, acts of love, it is the sole foundation of upbringing. Saying Bismillah before eating, whispering a short dua before bed, and pausing to say SubhanAllah when we see something beautiful outside. These small actions plant small seeds of iman in their hearts that will eventually grow stronger with time.

One day, in sha Allah, if Allah ﷻ gives me the gift of becoming a mother, I hope my children will grow up knowing that Allah ﷻ loves them, that He listens to them, and that He is always near. And that they will always know that whatever happens to them, they will love Him, honour Him, try to listen to Him, and always strive to be near to Him. If they carry that love in their hearts, then no matter what life brings, they will never feel truly alone.

Until nextime, sending love to my Amanah girlies

- Vesile